There are two kinds of people in this world: the ones who, according to society, are “smoking hot” and think they aren’t, and the ones who have a more attractive personality than face or body, but think they have it “going on.”
Well, okay, maybe there are three kinds of people, the third kind being “I know I’m not on David Beckham’s level, but I know I’m not morbidly scary-looking either.” Classify yourself how you wish — or don’t, but whichever category you think fits best, it is probably the correct category.
What about when it comes to other people and not just a mirror on the wall? Unless we are lusting after someone’s features or admiring their perfect make-up skills, we often do the opposite of admiring.
I’m talking about body shaming.
We all do it. Yes, we do. Whether to ourselves or to others, it happens. Whether intentional or innocent, it happens. And it always will. It starts with a brief glance. And then a double-take and the thoughts are rollin’.
“Oh my gosh, he should really just get a bra. Disgusting.”
“Again? She wears those shoes every day. What kind of fashion-mindless person would even wear those?”
Or maybe it is simply laughing at Ann Coulter as she jokes about “fat” protestors.
Coulter recently tweeted pictures from a rally with captions like, “Without fat girls, there would be no protests,” and “I guess marching around waving signs is some exercise, but they also need Atkins,” to which one tweeter responded, “What does her gender or body type have to do with her protesting?”
Good question, tweeter. I don’t know?
Maybe you’re not as drastic as Coulter, who has been dubbed “High Priestess of Trumpism” and was probably just trying to act like him via Twitter. Or perhaps you do go even further in your body shaming habits…
Playboy model Dani Mathers seems to be on the extreme side when judging other people’s appearance. One expects her to be strict and highly critical of her own appearance, considering the 29-year-old is a provocative model who makes a living looking like a fun-time doll.
How hard she is on herself, we don’t know. But she sure can give someone else grief about their body — but not to their face, mind you. She hides behind Snapchat.
Mathers took a picture of a 70-year-old naked woman in the locker room of the gym and shared it for her world of Snapchat followers to see. And screenshot. And report. Mathers included the mocking comment, “If I can’t unsee this, you can’t either.”
The picture, which was taken from afar, shows the woman minding her own business and taking a shower at this gym in the public-designated shower area. Mathers and any other gym members should expect to see someone showering in the shower area.
Now it’s probably going to cost her a little money and perhaps, a little jail time (on a charge of invasion of privacy).
Of course, Mathers says she did not mean for all of her Snapchat friends to see the picture, and her lawyer says she did not try to break any laws. I guess sometimes, “I didn’t mean to” just doesn’t cut it.
In Mathers’ defense, she probably knows good and well what everyone else thinks of her body, and I’m sure not all of it is favorable. If she didn’t have to be so obsessed with her own body, she probably would not be so concerned with someone else’s body, especially someone old enough to be her grandma.
Don’t worry what you look like because you look just fine — and nobody truly cares what you look like, anyhow. Really. People might think about it for a minute or even say something to you or someone else, but they’ll soon forget about it. And if they are really audacious and post an uncensored picture of you for the world to see, at least you can make some money off of ‘em.
The moral of the Snapchat and the tweet: public body shaming only looks bad for you, and if that’s the kind of attention you want, go for it.
But think twice or even three times before you make comments or send pictures — you’ll thank yourself later.